Harold Troyer Harold Troyer

Dance Like No One Is Watching

We often tell ourselves life will be better after…. we turn 16, start dating, get married, have kids, get that promotion, retire.

But when those milestones arrive, new challenges appear - and we shift the goalposts again.

The truth? There is no perfect “when”. Challenges are a part of life, always.

As Alfred D Souza beautifully put it: “For a long time , it seemed life was about to begin—real life. But there was always an obstacle in the way…..until it dawned on me that the obstacles are my life”.

Happiness isn’t waiting at the end of the road. It’s woven into the journey itself.

So choose now: Work like you don’t need the money. Love like you’ve never been hurt. Dance like no one is watching.

Treasure this moment. Life isn’t waiting to be perfect——it’s already happening.

Are you ready to start living (and loving) fully in the present?. What’s the one thing you’ve been waiting for?

We often tell ourselves life will be better after…. we turn 16, start dating, get married, have kids, get that promotion, retire.

But when those milestones arrive, new challenges appear - and we shift the goalposts again.

The truth? There is no perfect “when”. Challenges are a part of life, always.

As Alfred D Souza beautifully put it: “For a long time , it seemed life was about to begin—real life. But there was always an obstacle in the way…..until it dawned on me that the obstacles are my life”.

Happiness isn’t waiting at the end of the road. It’s woven into the journey itself.

So choose now: Work like you don’t need the money. Love like you’ve never been hurt. Dance like no one is watching.

Treasure this moment. Life isn’t waiting to be perfect——it’s already happening.

Are you ready to start living (and loving) fully in the present?. What’s the one thing you’ve been waiting for?

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Harold Troyer Harold Troyer

Goal vs Desire

A Goal is a specific, actionable, and measurable plan within your control that you work toward, where as a desire is an emotional longing, wish, or craving that often lacks a concrete plan. 

GOALS focus on actions

  • I am responsible to act in ways that will accomplish my purpose

DESIRES focus on feelings

  • I cannot achieve  through my efforts alone

  • I am dependent on others or circumstances to determine the outcome 

  • We must never assume responsibility for fulfilling our desires

  • My  need for love, security, significance, respect ( comes from God and others )

Action vs Feeling : goals are action oriented and require discipline, while desires are emotional, bubbly feelings. 

Control : Goals are under your direct control while desires often involve external factors  you cannot control. 

Specifically : Goals are SMART

  • Specific

  • Measurable

  • Achievable

  • Relevant

  • Time - bound

    • whereas desires are usually vague and undefined

Purpose : Goals are what you need to do. Desires are what you want to have

Why the distinction  matters

  • Treating a desire ( uncontrollable) as a goal ( controllable ) can lead to frustration and disappointment. To achieve results, desires should be converted into concrete goals by defining specific actions, deadlines and steps. When our desires are not met we get upset, and and hurt. 

A Goal is a specific, actionable, and measurable plan within your control that you work toward, where as a desire is an emotional longing, wish, or craving that often lacks a concrete plan. 

GOALS focus on actions

  • I am responsible to act in ways that will accomplish my purpose

DESIRES focus on feelings

  • I cannot achieve  through my efforts alone

  • I am dependent on others or circumstances to determine the outcome 

  • We must never assume responsibility for fulfilling our desires

  • My  need for love, security, significance, respect ( comes from God and others )

Action vs Feeling : goals are action oriented and require discipline, while desires are emotional, bubbly feelings. 

Control : Goals are under your direct control while desires often involve external factors  you cannot control. 

Specifically : Goals are SMART

  • Specific

  • Measurable

  • Achievable

  • Relevant

  • Time - bound

    • whereas desires are usually vague and undefined

Purpose : Goals are what you need to do. Desires are what you want to have

Why the distinction  matters

  • Treating a desire ( uncontrollable) as a goal ( controllable ) can lead to frustration and disappointment. To achieve results, desires should be converted into concrete goals by defining specific actions, deadlines and steps. When our desires are not met we get upset, and and hurt. 

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